Would you confess a lockdown secret to a stranger?
London stationary shop owner, Eleanor Tattersfield, sent out blank postcards asking people to anonymously reveal their lockdown secrets.
The results are very touching and often hilarious.
Here are a few of them.
- I dislocated my jaw giving my boyfriend a blowjob. And I told my husband I did it eating an apple.
- I haven’t seen my sisters for more than a year and I haven’t missed them one bit.
- I’ve started a fling with a naval officer 12 years my junior. I’m nearly 50. Hello sailor!
- I ordered a pizza and they sent me three by mistake. I ate them ALL in one sitting.
- I had an affair. Sort of.
- I love my dog more than I love my partner. But soon she will die. She allows the perfect combination of solitude and companionship.
- When I’m in online meetings with one of my colleagues, it looks like I’m taking notes. But I’m not. I’m actually writing down in exquisite detail all the things I want him to do to me.
- I hate my step-kids.
- Everyone thinks I’m amazing. But I’m really f*cked.
I find this last one especially moving. I suspect it may be the secret shared by most. The sense that there’s something dreadfully wrong with us – and if anyone knew what we’re really like, they would be horrified.
Fabulous author Anne Lamott has wisdom to share on this subject. In her poignant and oh-so-funny TED talk, 12 truths I learned from life and writing, she tells us;
“Everyone is screwed up, broken, clingy and scared, even the people who seem to have it most together. They are much more like you than you would believe, so try not to compare your insides to other people’s outsides. It will only make you worse than you already are.”Anne Lamott
We’re all in this messy life together. In lockdowns or out of them. In love or out of it. Slightly crazed or highly crazed.
Here’s to practicing courage and compassion for ourselves and each other as we navigate our shared human predicaments.